My friend Silas Shotwell does a newsletter about his ministry work. His October newsletter was a reflection on the loss of his wife 15 years earlier and some other losses in his life and the resulting grief. Late in the writing, he says the following:
… and deep-seated grief is the result. I have love, with no place for it to go.
But now back to what I said earlier.
The best way to deal with grief is to give love some place to go! … So I would say to any of you that are suffering loss, and struggling with grief: Love with word, with deed, and with action.
Love others so fiercely that your love is spent, so your chests are no longer hollow, and the lump in your throat hurts a little less.
Love those around you that are hurting most, who have lost the most, and then love them even harder.
Because the truth about grief is that it never leaves!
It lasts as long as love lasts—forever.
Kathy Parker says: “May love become light in the darkness of your grief.”
That means a lot to me.
So I say, along with her: “My love, thoughts, and prayers are with those at this time, who have suffered a loss beyond comprehension. I don’t understand, I will never understand. But I know our hearts unite in love for those who have lost so much. May you know that you are not alone!”
Very well said and worth some reflection.
I hope you and yours are well.