Three Great Reads

I’m considering doing a once per week post on three great things I’ve read during the week. Just considering it. Here are three for this week.

Why You Should Trust People First is a terrific post on why you should take that risk and speak up, ask, be vulnerable, greet, welcome, help that other person. In general, it is so worth it. Highly recommended.

Add Value To One Person’s Life Per Day is another great post suggesting that every single day, we need to find someone to help. Your help of that person will further help and compound as they likely then go on and do something good for someone else. Just get into the habit. Every single day.

You might be thinking that adding value to one person’s life is not enough of an impact. I once thought that too.

Until I realized that adding value is contagious.

When you do it once, the person you help passes it on. The second part happens in secret, though.

“You don’t see the significance of the value you’ve given to someone because the person you helped does it without thinking”

It’s natural that when we’ve seen the power of adding value to one person’s life, we want to pass it on. We collectively end up mimicking the behavior and just forget to label it as “I helped add value to one person today.”

Adding value to a persons life is contagious. Helping people is contagious too.

Tim Denning

The Simple Power of Showing Up is a great reminder that just showing up and just being consistent makes all the difference in achieving one’s goals.

It’s time that people start realizing you can’t be the noun without doing the verb.
You can’t be a writer, if you don’t write.
You can’t be a cook, if you never cook.
You can’t be an athlete, if you never train.
In what areas of your life do you call yourself the noun without doing the verb? It’s time to get consistent.

The Simple Power of Showing Up

Pay and What is Right

I’ve been trying to figure out how to write this post. Can’t quite find the rights words or even the right way to start. I’m no great writer, but usually I can find the right words. So, I’ll just do this.

It is unacceptable that women are being paid less than men for the same jobs. 

I understand that there are huge complexities is doing large studies and benchmark because of differences in jobs, tenure, backgrounds, etc. but at the simplest level, all employers and leaders, should and must be making active efforts to normalize and level the playing field.  A story in the Guardian earlier this year says:

Sucheta Nadkarni, professor and director of the Wo+Men’s Leadership Centre at Cambridge Judge business school, says that – despite flaws – the figures do indicate men are paid more than women on average. She said: “Whether it is because women are getting paid less for the work that they are doing or because women are not getting equal opportunities to get into positions where the pay level is high – it doesn’t matter what the reason is, but there is a gender pay gap and in most cases it’s an issue of equality and justice. In both cases it’s an issue of an imbalance of some sort.”

Gender pay gap: what we learned and how to fix it

I see three reasons why all of us must work to fix these problems.

First, it is just the right thing to do. I shouldn’t have to explain this one. 

Second, we need all the best people we can find in our workforce and in leadership positions. Any organization that wants to succeed or prosper or even exist, needs the best people it can find on its workforce. Any practice or policy that ‘slights’ or ‘devalues’ one group over another is not doing all it can to succeed. Why would anyone want part of their workforce to feel slighted? Don’t we want to attract the best people possible in all our positions? This applies to race, religion, etc. too.

Finally, the third reason, which is gender specific, is that I do believe we need more women in leadership positions. We need their viewpoints and life experiences informing and driving decisions being made in government, corporations and nonprofits.  Related, I wonder if the #metoo movement would be different or even necessary if there were far more women in leadership positions everywhere. 

Ruth Bader Ginsburg is famous for her remark that ‘There will be enough women on the Supreme Court when there are nine’ which is funny but the principle is valid. I’d be fine with nine women on the supreme court but we would then likely miss the male viewpoint on some key issues.

A recent survey reported that 52% of Americans would feel “very comfortable” with a female president to which I reply why isn’t that 95% or 98% or 100%? 

It is time for men to speak up and address matters that are holding women back from advancement, leadership or equal pay.

Reading Recommendations

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I’m currently flying through The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact on Audible by Heath and Heath. It is perhaps the most interesting and thought provoking book I’ve read in quite a while on business or organizational (or personal) excellence. It is full of examples and ideas that could be applied in all kinds of situations: schools, churches, organizations and even in your personal life as you interact with others. Highly recommended. Likely to go through it again.

Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better by Hansen is a Christian view on not taking offense, forgiving and just being humble.

We humans are experts at casting ourselves as victims and rewriting narratives that put us in the center of injustices… And we can repaint our anger or hatred of someone—say, anyone who threatens us—into a righteous-looking work of art. And yet, remarkably, in Jesus’ teaching, there is no allowance for “Okay, well, if someone really is a jerk, then yeah—you need to be offended.” We’re flat-out told to forgive, even—especially!—the very stuff that’s understandably maddening and legitimately offensive.

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Forfeiting our right to anger makes us deny ourselves, and makes us others-centered. When we start living this way, it changes everything.

In this age of everyone taking offense at everyone else and as the author says, “Everybody’s an idiot but me. I’m awesome” we need to be more patient, tolerant, understanding and forgiving. Much to process in this book and I will likely go through it a 2nd time shortly. Thanks SL for the recommendation.

And I listened to the Screwtape Letters by CS Lewis again. Amazing.

Currently working through The Beginning of Infinity: Explanations that Transform the World by David Deutsch but at 20 hours on Audible, it will take a while…

Also appreciate recommendations from any of you. Best wishes.

 

iPhone Configuration Ideas

I found the best post I’ve ever seen on how to best setup your iPhone to minimize distractions and promote mindfulness and productivity on the device instead of time wasting. I thought I was fairly good at this but this article suggested a lot of ideas I had not considered and just working through the recommendations was a powerful reminder of how to better use my iPhone instead of it using me. If you’ve not done a cleanup on your iPhone for a long time or if you need help with this, I suggest you work through these recommendations at How to Configure Your iPhone to Work for You, Not Against You.

May Love Become Light In The Darkness Of Your Grief

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My friend Silas Shotwell does a newsletter about his ministry work. His October newsletter was a reflection on the loss of his wife 15 years earlier and some other losses in his life and the resulting grief. Late in the writing, he says the following:

… and deep-seated grief is the result. I have love, with no place for it to go.

But now back to what I said earlier.

The best way to deal with grief is to give love some place to go! … So I would say to any of you that are suffering loss, and struggling with grief: Love with word, with deed, and with action.

Love others so fiercely that your love is spent, so your chests are no longer hollow, and the lump in your throat hurts a little less.

Love those around you that are hurting most, who have lost the most, and then love them even harder.

Because the truth about grief is that it never leaves!

It lasts as long as love lasts—forever.

Kathy Parker  says: “May love become light in the darkness of your grief.”

That means a lot to me.

So I say, along with her: “My love, thoughts, and prayers are with those at this time, who have suffered a loss beyond comprehension. I don’t understand, I will never understand. But I know our hearts unite in love for those who have lost so much. May you know that you are not alone!

Very well said and worth some reflection.

I hope you and yours are well.

New iPhone Camera

I bought the new iPhone. I generally skip versions so i jumped from the 7 to the Xs skipping the 8 and X generations. I will freely acknowledge that I didn’t NEED a new phone; I just wanted the new phone. I really wanted the new camera.

You can read several better reviews of the new cameras on other sites like this and this.

I’m not a photographer, but I take a lot of pictures, if that makes any sense at all. I took the following picture at a table in the 116 Farmstead Market & Table a few days ago.

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And here is a ‘Portrait’ model picture of the flower and vase.

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Wow. The detail, color and clarity are stunning and this is a camera phone.  Portrait mode blurs the background and the difference in the two pictures is obvious.

I’ve been amazed with the quality of the pictures and I’m just getting started with it.

I’ve read that we are going to be disappointed in our early camera phone pictures in a few years and I know exactly what that means. Those early flip phone pictures saved are nearly useless now. Even pictures from just a few years back are not very good. Here is one from 1996 when we used to live in Singapore.singapore

I wonder how these current pictures will age? If you are using your camera phone to capture moments with the kids or using it for business reasons, I can recommend this generation of Phones and their cameras and the iPhone Xs in particular.

Note that the camera system on the Xs and the Xs Max are identical which is a change from the X generation. Read Apple’s version of the new cameras here.

I don’t really want to write such an endorsement, but I’ve been stunned by the quality of the pictures on this camera.

Excellence

It is easy to watch the news and think that everything is broken. Sometimes, most times, it seems we should just not watch the news.

I’ve had three encounters with excellence in the last few days where an organization, an industry and a group are really seeming to drive towards excellence with enthusiasm and energy and passion.

Endeavor

The College of Engineering, Architecture and Technology (CEAT) at Oklahoma State University just opened a new undergraduate laboratory building that has been written up here and here.

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The difference with this lab is their intense focus on cross-functional collaborations with different engineering disciplines working together to solve problems and do research at the undergraduate level. It is not just the EEs or the MEs doing their thing by themselves, but it is pulling them together as undergraduates to work together; which is just like the real world. The articles spell it out more, but here is one more at campustechnology.com. I’m anxious to see what OSU CEAT does with this new facility. Very exciting.

Relentless focus on getting better at educating engineers.

Winemaking

I passed through Napa Valley last week and had the opportunity to tour a couple of vineyards. I was simply stunned at the lever of precision and passion wine makers ( the head wine experts) and their wineries have towards their craft. I had no idea. Focus on sun, rain, temperatures, soil conditions, this hill vs. that hill, this side vs that side, this grape vs. that grape, etc. The vineyards are immaculate and well maintained.

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Didn’t meet any of the winemakers, but heard about passion and focus. Many of them walk through the vineyards daily. Amazing. Is this the highest form of Agricultural Engineering?

Fleetwood Mac

I get it. You are wondering how these all fit together. My wife and I had the chance to see Fleetwood Mac at the start of their tour at the BOK Center in TulsaIMG_4111

Stevie Nicks, Christine McVie, Mick Fleetwood, John McVie, and several new players. While the group was older, they still played with passion and energy.

They did a cover of Free Falling to honor Tom Petty and it was amazing. Neil Finn is a great addition and a great compliment to the group.

They were still great. It was a wonderful evening with lots of memories.

Passion. Focus.

Excellence.

All of three are fun to see and experience. Other places like Regional Food Bank of Oklahoma led by Katie Fitzgerald and by many programs at Oklahoma Christian University led by John deSteiguer all point to people and groups trying to do the right things with excellence and passion.

There is hope.