I’ve been re-reading a lot lately. Re-listening on Audible. Re-watching movies.
Lately This Present Darkness, Inspired: Slaying Giants, Walking on Water and Loving the Bible Again, 14 and Unoffendable. I’m thinking about listening to IT again and I keep rewatching Avengers movies and Star Wars: Rogue One. And of course, any Harry Potter movie that is on when I need to just veg is a go.
I’m reading the book Deep Work right now and it too has caused me to rethink about what ‘noise’ is invading my days. And, this month at church, we are talking about the idea of ‘breaking up with your phone’ and in that study, we are hearing a lot of data about how our addiction to our mobile phones is having a dreadful harmful impact on our lives.
Whether it is your mobile phone, television or your computer, we have a lot options to pipe noise into our lives
If you listen to cable news network all day long one mostly hears negative views of everyone in all directions: all is bad, nothing is working, everybody is your enemy. (I do like the last story on CBS Evening news which always seems to be a positive story about someone or something that works.)
Local news spends a big fraction of their reporting on murders, fires, thefts, corruption and car wrecks.
Social Media streams to are quick to point out blame or evil. And in a flash, you can attack, or take sides, or fan the flames.
Podcasts are available on every single possible topic on the planet. Many good, many bad, and many that might just not be helpful. A source of true crime and hate messages.
True Crime shows are the rage on tv now, but they are just so frightening and gloomy. These can make you want to just stay inside and pack a weapon all the time.
Many movies and shows on television are not very good messages to pipe into our heads and the heads of our kids.
Facebook is sometimes full of joy (birth and marriages) and other times full of sadness (death, loss and sickness). Unfortunately, it is also a place (like Twitter) where people, who might otherwise seem normal, will bombard you with politics or news that you do not want to hear. The last presidential election cycle was a nightmare.
A while back I referenced the book Factfulness which tells us that perhaps, things are better than we realize. And really, there are lots of good people and organizations around trying doing to do the right things.
So where does all this go and what do I do about it.
I’ve cut way back on listening to the news. I’m mostly interested in the weather forecasts (something that might justify another post) and sports. I do try to check in on the national news daily, but I don’t spend a lot of time with it.
I used to listen to true crime podcasts and was fascinated with the solved and unsolved cases. However, I got to a point were the scary, negative, sad, awful was overpowering. And, as some of you know, I’m a runner and I would listen to these on early morning runs before the sun comes up. It is not a good mix to listen to these stories while out alone in the dark. Not needed. I’ve stopped listening to this whole genre.
On my mobile phone, I’ve turned on screen time app limits to limit social media access daily.
As mentioned on my last post, I’ve deleted Facebook and some other apps from my phone.
I think there are more steps to take and I’m on a journey here. I’d welcome hearing your thoughts and recommendations on how to best throttle or control the pipe of news and information that is streaming into my head.
However, I did just finish listening to Dr. Death podcast at the recommendation of SL and as a result I’ve decided to never need surgery. I wrote on an earlier post how essential it is to have a medical advocate to support you when going into surgery or serious medical issues. Wow.
So my fierce running partner and I decided to run 1,400 miles last year. I had run 700+ the year before while dealing with a foot injury so it was almost doubling my mileage in the year. We completed the task by mid-December and we made ourselves some medals to recognize the milestone.
And, of course, we’ve signed up to run another marathon this year.
I’ve been troubled and conflicted for a while about how our privacy is threatened and how by using so many apps and services online, I’m giving away what might be private information to 3rd parties to then use or re-sell. I wrote about this last May when I wrote about Post Privacy.
Tech optimists used to wax poetic about how the internet was going to make us a smarter, more erudite, more empathetic global community. But in 2018, it’s become clear that we’re in the middle of a communication breakdown, and that nobody has a good answer for how to properly engage with the things we once posted online, however dumb or horrible.¹
There has been a recent wave of articles about online privacy and several make very good points or point to tools that help you erase or reduce your online footprint.
At this particular moment in time, a lot of people seem to be interested in making that a reality — or at least in trying to completely cover up their tracks. Signal, a text and phone-call encryption app that comes with a recommendation from Edward Snowden, recorded a 400 percent jump in downloads after the election. And while landlords, colleges and potential employers have examined the social-media presence of applicants for years, there are signs that this kind of scrutiny is close to getting much more invasive.²
And I also took down my very first blog. I didn’t delete the blog, but I made it private. That hurt. I really loved what I had written there over many, many years.
I still have this blog (and here I’m writing away) and I have my prior professional blog about IT which I’ve still left up but I’m not posting there much anymore. I might take it down at some point too.
I can’t figure out what to do with Facebook. I’m tired of their security breakdowns, their misuse of data, and their insights about us. But it is the only way we connect with some of our friends and family so I don’t have a good plan there yet. I’ve almost stopped posting anything and I don’t check it much these day. I’ve deleted it from my phone.
Have you taken any steps like these? Any learnings?
¹ Winkie, Luke. “The Depressing Truth About Deleting Your Online History.” Medium.com, Medium, 11 Jan. 2019, medium.com/s/thenewnew/the-depressing-truth-about-deleting-your-online-history-92f26d24f907.
A week ago I got to wondering how many services, products, systems, tools or apps I’ve subscribed to over the months and years. My guess was perhaps 5 or 6, but I wasn’t sure. As of right now, I’ve documented 36 things I’ve subscribed or pay for on a regular basis where a draft if made against my bank account or credit cards. Gym membership, Adobe tools, Amazon Prime, Apple Music, several apps, several news services, etc. And I’ve become convinced there are more to come. Some of these show up every 12 months and one even renews in 24 months. I’m still in discovery mode to remember and think of those that I’ve not yet tracked.
Related, I’ve noticed that some subscription services send you reminders a few days before renewal, but some don’t. Shame on those who don’t and seem to just be hoping that you’ve forgotten and they can charge you again.
You might consider doing such a review yourself.
Related, if you are aren’t already doing this, you should setup your credit cards to notify you via a push of every transaction as it happens.
I found the best post I’ve ever seen on how to best setup your iPhone to minimize distractions and promote mindfulness and productivity on the device instead of time wasting. I thought I was fairly good at this but this article suggested a lot of ideas I had not considered and just working through the recommendations was a powerful reminder of how to better use my iPhone instead of it using me. If you’ve not done a cleanup on your iPhone for a long time or if you need help with this, I suggest you work through these recommendations at How to Configure Your iPhone to Work for You, Not Against You.
I bought the new iPhone. I generally skip versions so i jumped from the 7 to the Xs skipping the 8 and X generations. I will freely acknowledge that I didn’t NEED a new phone; I just wanted the new phone. I really wanted the new camera.
You can read several better reviews of the new cameras on other sites like this and this.
I’m not a photographer, but I take a lot of pictures, if that makes any sense at all. I took the following picture at a table in the 116 Farmstead Market & Table a few days ago.
And here is a ‘Portrait’ model picture of the flower and vase.
Wow. The detail, color and clarity are stunning and this is a camera phone. Portrait mode blurs the background and the difference in the two pictures is obvious.
I’ve been amazed with the quality of the pictures and I’m just getting started with it.
I’ve read that we are going to be disappointed in our early camera phone pictures in a few years and I know exactly what that means. Those early flip phone pictures saved are nearly useless now. Even pictures from just a few years back are not very good. Here is one from 1996 when we used to live in Singapore.
I wonder how these current pictures will age? If you are using your camera phone to capture moments with the kids or using it for business reasons, I can recommend this generation of Phones and their cameras and the iPhone Xs in particular.
Note that the camera system on the Xs and the Xs Max are identical which is a change from the X generation. Read Apple’s version of the new cameras here.
I don’t really want to write such an endorsement, but I’ve been stunned by the quality of the pictures on this camera.
Being a good listener is about two things: 1) Demonstrating that you’ve heard exactly what was said by the other person, and 2) encouraging them to continue.
I’ll often start that conversation saying, ‘I’m wrong all the time and I very well may be here.’ Acknowledging your own fallibility and human imperfection can go a long way toward making yourself relatable.
End every meeting or conversation with the feeling and optimism you’d like to have at the start of your next conversation with the person. “Assume you’re going to run into everyone again — it usually happens either by plan or happenstance,” says Fralic. “There are no closed connections. The world is too small.” When you do meet again, you want the person to think, ‘Oh great, it’s so-and-so!’
When confronted with a new situation they ask questions that efficiently get to the heart of the unaddressed issues.
It is not uncommon for a very smart person to see deeply into a problem and say things that indicate such depth, even when they are not widely understood, and their insight only becomes apparent long after the fact.
Smart people are a constant source of surprises — in their ideas, in their wordplay, in their questions, or in some other way. Whatever fuels their smarts cannot be corralled, and leads to unpredictable moments (at least to mere mortals).
There is always something about an intelligent person that you cannot quite put your finger on. It is just out of reach, and it makes them inscrutable.
An interesting article about averages and how we are always comparing ourselves to others. Read “What Are You Hiding?” which has this wonderful line which we’d be good to embrace,
If you are lucky, you figure out you are not average, love that part of yourself and find people who will also love you for it.
I’ve read three other posts this past week that have caused me to really pause and think, but I’m not ready to post them yet. Perhaps sometime later. Maybe. One was about intolerance and anti-intellectual thinking and two were about male dominance over females in society and the effects and issues. Both need further processing by me.
Please share back with me if you find a thought-provoking article that meant something to you.