Time

pablo (2)Found out last week that my Ph.D. advisor back when I was at OSU died in August and that his memorial service was today. I’d not seen him since graduation as my Ph,D. process was one of those troubled stories and when I finished, I drove out of town and didn’t look back for a decade. I had tried to contact him a couple of times via email, but he never replied and I was never sure if I had the correct email address. Learning of his passing was a bit sobering. I changed my plans today and went to his memorial service.

He was a delight to work with and from the service today, he was a wonderful person. I’m very sorry that I hadn’t connected with him.

This plus other things recently have magnified the shortness of life. Time flies by. Some get sick and face months or years of health battles while others age and in some cases, age poorly.

My high school is planning a big high school reunion next year and I’ve not seen any of these people in years. One of our number has a spreadsheet of class members who have died!

This is where my head is today:

  1. Love those you can.
  2. Be kind.
  3. Enjoy the days.
  4. Run! ( or swim, or lift, or play, or move)
  5. Be a good friend.
  6. Don’t worry about what others think.
  7. Find your anchor points and hold tight.
  8. Enjoy the dogs and cats.
  9. Give all you can to those around you.
  10. Let your friends and family know you love them.
  11. You can’t take any of it with you when you die.
  12. Always go to the wedding. Always go to the funeral.
  13. Do the best you can and then let it go at night and sleep well.
  14. Start over again tomorrow.

What else?

I hope you know you are loved. I hope you have a great day.

 

Life is Damn Hard

Facebook is a weird, surreal place. There are posts about people having babies right next to friends who are battling cancer right next to people who have lost their job right next to announcements about new grandbabies. It is surreal.

I’ve reached a point where I’m mostly scared to post anything because there are so many different perspectives or experiences that people are living through and I’m worried about saying the wrong thing to someone at the wrong time.

I have friends in life and death battles with cancer. Loved ones who’ve lost jobs and because they are over 50 can’t seem to find a new one. Friends whose kids are going into drug counseling centers.

Life is hard.

I will tell you that I believe there is a story unfolding. That there is a purpose and a direction and that life if meaningful. I believe that there is an author. I believe that the Christian message is fundamentally true. This world is broken and there is a redeemer.

Christians over the years and centuries have completely messed up the message with crusades, political campaigns, and endorsements of the absurd yet I still believe the underlying Christian message is true. 2000 years ago God stepped into the world and showed us a different way. A light is shown into the darkness. There is hope.

Nothing else seems to make sense to me.

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Tonight is a night of darkness where I’m grieving for several. However, I believe there is hope and a light. If you are in a dark place, there is light. Look for it. Seek it.