I read an article this week that really struck me in describing the current times. It was entitled The Weaponization of Feeling ‘Unsafe’ and it struck me as very true. We are in an era where ‘The new McCarthyism requires that everyone bow to demands of “victims.”’ People expect everyone else to bow down to their opinions and affirm their beliefs and nobody is entitled to hold a different viewpoint or opinion. I have to think about this further.
And then there was this article called Why Men Don’t Have Friends and Why Women Should Care which caught my eye. I think there is a huge amount of truth in this. I’ve had two friends move out of town/state this past year and I’m still processing the loss.
I just finished the book Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by Epstein and I have to say this is a book the resonates deeply with me. I like to think of myself as someone who reads widely and is interested in lots of things: “a reader of much and an expert on nothing” and this book exactly talks about this idea. It just resonated with me and I recommend it.
Finally, I was talking with a friend this afternoon who told me about a recent family wedding weekend where the family nearly broke into fist fights. One family member had to step in and tell those who were feuding that the weekend was about the wedding party, not them and they needed to cut it out. I know of another dear family where there is conflict and one family member is spreading hatred and false narratives about another family member. Such huge hurt for some. Why do we do this to each other? Why does family do this to family? Really, why does anyone do this to anyone?
Be kind, for you do not know what battle others are fighting. Here is an idea, decide to be kind and gracious and give the benefit of the doubt. Life is short.
I wrote a piece on Facebook a few days ago about the teacher strike in Oklahoma and its conclusion and results.
My compliments and thanks to all the teachers in Oklahoma, and the associated supported staff and leadership, who stood up to the Oklahoma legislature and governor and called for change. You’ve made a difference.
Mary Fallon, you were AWOL. You weren’t there on the ground trying to help find a solution. You were elsewhere. You should be embarrassed.
Now it is time to hold the legislature and our candidates for the next governor accountable for what they said and what they didn’t say.
The real issue in Oklahoma is that our legislature can’t solve problems, can’t work together, can’t collaborate, can’t compromise. Some are ideologues who can’t work with others. Some only want victory for ‘their party’ and some are just plain idiotic. I say vote them all out. Let’s put new people in our government offices and see if the new legislature can work together to solve our problems and move us into the future.
Probably we need to revise taxation on companies and industries, probably we need to consolidate school districts, probably we need to change tax structures, probably we need to reconsider what has been done in the past and find a better path to the future. Let’s elect people who can get us there.
Teachers, thank you for starting this process.
I keep reflecting on how hard it is for our elected officials at the state (and of course the Federal level) to work together. We’ve become polarized and we’ve elected people into offices who are ideologues and simply can not compromise or collaborate.
There are times when you need to get together and figure out how to fix or improve something and it might require new thinking, a fresh approach, a break from the past, or heaven forbid, a reversal on a previous position. It just seems to me, that the number of ideas that one should cast into concrete and never reconsider or reevaluate is very small.
Perhaps, just be uncompromising and dogmatic on the side of Kindness. Maybe that is the rule to keep at all times. Make the decisions, judgments, rules, and laws that err on the side of Kindness.
Elections are circling around soon. Let’s find some people at the state and federal levels who can solve problems, move us forward and move us more in the direction of tolerance and kindness.
A few interesting things I’ve found recently:
Am I Invisible? The Pain-Relieving Response to Being Rejected or Excluded is one of the best articles I’ve read in a long time. Seems to me that we are disconnected from one another more than ever and that more and more people are very lonely. I’ve been thinking about this article for a week now.
Remember the deepest desire of the human heart is to belong … to be welcomed … to know you are seen and worthy of kindness.
Warren Buffett’s ‘20 Slot’ Rule: How to Simplify Your Life and Maximize Your Results is an article about focus. Much like a prior post on Mindsets and Focus, this provides an interesting way to think about what is important to you and where you should invest your time, energy and thoughts. You’ve only got some many opportunities…
The Greatest Sales Deck I’ve Ever Seen by Andy Raskin struck me as a clear outline of how to sell your idea. A clear, step-by-step outline of how to sell your idea to someone else. I’m thinking of where I can apply this outline to something soon.
How (and Why) to Find, Hire (and Promote) a Utility Player by Karin Hurt has some thoughts on how to be really indispensable to an organization or team. She outlines some skills, and really a mindset to embrace, that can make you indispensable.
A rather interesting article called, The Status Update Life with some thought-provoking ideas about social media and the compulsion to post status updates.
“You can take the person out of contributing to social media but you cannot take the social status needs out of the person.” — Taylor Wallace
and finally a good article about how to develop your self-confidence entitled, How to Activate Extreme Self-Confidence and Destroy Chronic Anxiety and Fear by Anthony Moore.